You’re having one of those days — your boss got mad at you, you forgot to schedule that dental appointment for you child, dinner burned on the stove, you got a ticket for having a taillight out, and to top it all off, you feel like you’re getting a cold. Definitely one of THOSE days!
It would be easy to get angry, scream, diss on yourself or everyone else, reach for the nearest cookie, down a beer or a pill, or pull your hair out. That side of you, your ego, would like to give up, hide under the blankets and sleep till all was forgotten. You want the hurt to stop; you want the seeming blessed relief of emotional numbness. You turn away from mirrors so as not to see the misery looking back out of your own bewildered eyes. Fear and doubt are like lead weights dragging at your heart and mind.
Let’s stop for a moment here and give yourself permission to have some quiet time. Where you can just BE and look a bit more deeply into what exactly is actually happening. Breathe slow and steady and let all the tension flow away. Feel a gentle river of soft light passing through your body. Relax.
Now you can take a look at the day, at these events, without distraction and with objectivity. You see that these events happened and then you reacted to them in the same way you always have. You called the events “bad” or “wrong” or something negative. But was it really the event? Or was it more HOW you reacted to them?
I want you to know that you can choose in each moment how to perceive days such as this, the days that seem so much harder to cope with. You can find a new and more peaceful way to interact with these events by Trusting the Process. This means knowing that nothing happens by coincidence, that you truly aren’t a victim of the world, that you can change the events by consciously choosing how you want to be in each moment. Choosing who you want to be. Simply choosing a new way, a new thought, a new outlook, a new perception.
What do I mean by the “process”? I mean that creation occurs by thoughts, then words, then deeds (think about that for a few minutes). The process involves the entire universe, those people you interact with (the collective), and your Self. And though the details may change (i.e., the actual events) the process itself is always the same and it is never broken or out of whack.
So know that within you is the ability to choose how you’ll react to difficult events. Know it with deep faith, and trust that you can make anew the choices which will enable you to deal with anything and everything. With this stabilizing and foundational faith and trust at your core, you’ll find yourself more at peace, more full of joy, more capable, more loving and more compassionate. Yes, even compassionate to yourself! {Imagine how good it will feel when you don’t bully yourself anymore!}
To reiterate: before you choose to react to anything, search inside, recall the Thoughts>Words>Deeds Process, and then consciously choose how you want to act. Trust the process and your personal role in it. As you practice this new way of being, you’ll be amazed at how the number of “bad” days will decrease. That’s because you now have a new tool, a new method, of interacting with the events of your life. You may not master this tool overnight, but in time you will be a “Master of Those Days” in your own right. (You can even partner up with someone close to you to practice with!)
Then the next time one of those days rolls around you’ll be the calm center of the storm and even find yourself smiling softly and serenely while moving through the day with strong enduring confidence.
In Trust,
Daphne Cochran-Shapiro is an Author, Virtual Assistant and Entrepreneur who specializes in working with people seeking lifestyle changes, interested in starting an online business, and needing web design assistance. My goal is to empower you to be the best you can be in ALL your endeavors. Be sure you grab the free Celebrate Life! Newsletter while you’re here. I invite you to join me on this exciting journey! 
